sabzilla wrote:i've never reported anything. part of me regrets it, but in the end, i'm glad i didn't. i also had a friend who did the right thing, got a rape kit, and a report and nothing was ever pursued. she had to tell her story so many times to so many people, that she left one part out to a few people and they told her her inconsistencies made them doubt her.... even after a rape kit and obvious trauma.
the sad thing is, you get caught with an ounce of weed, you go to jail for 7 years. you destroy some young girls life, and you are out in 4. the justice system is FUCKED. justice, my ass.
Totally agree with you about the justice system. And experiences like your friends' sad one are why it's totally understandable to NOT come forward; I've heard people say things like "If you don't, it's your fault if he rapes again!" Actually, no, it's HIS FAULT. Way to literally blame the victim for the next victim.
daisyfuck wrote:Sucks that there's a whole laundry list of shit we have to remember in order to protect ourselves from being attacked. We should be teaching these assholes that rape is wrong, not for us to keep our hairs short and undesirable. Although it's good to know how to protect yourself, I still feel like it's not fucking fair.
My friend and I always get heated on this debate, because she thinks it's best to just go along with what the rapist wants in order to protect yourself from being attacked, while I on the other hand think you shouldn't go down without a fight. We're both victims of date rape, and neither one of our attackers understood what they did was wrong, nor do they still believe having sex with a drunk chick on the verge of passing out while you're completely sober is rape.
Men should be taught this shit. It should be drilled into their skulls, I'm sick and tired of people flipping out when I decide I want to go out to the city on my own, or how I can't be driving around the parkways on Long Island because god forbid I get a flat tire and someone decides to take advantage of me on the side of the road. While my brothers are free to do whatever they want, encouraged to travel, drive drunk on their own, etc.
High five, lady. In complete agreement!