Sorry if there was a thread on this already, but I did search first.
Just wanted to hear some opinions / experiences. Thought it'd be an interesting discussion. Not planning on getting married anytime soon, if at all. However, I got into a debate with someone recently about the issue of taking a man's last name when you marry him. I realize some people hyphenate, don't do it at all, hyphenate just the kids', feel good about being part of his family and taking his name, would never in a million years do it, think it's sick to say Mrs. Man's First Name Man's Last Name, or take pleasure in being able to call themselves by their husbands' name, etc. etc. etc. Some say it's a control/ownership thing, some say it isn't about that at all...
I've also gotten some male opinions on this which so far have been... I'd love for my wife to take my name and I'd be a little hurt if she didn't want to. I want my wife to make the decision about her own identity. I would/would not hyphenate with my wife's last name, etc. etc. etc.
Personally, I like my boyfriend's last name better than my own so if I married him, I'd seriously consider taking it! Ha. Great reasoning, right? Whatever, he has a cool last name.
However, I do struggle with letting go of what has always been uniquely my name. Our names would sound absurd if we hyphenated, so that's out! I always said I'd never do it, but after thought and conversations with people, I'm unsure about what I'd do if the time came.
I'm interested to hear what the ladies and gents on here have done / would do / think about the topic?
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